You’re not happy

You’re not happy because the situation you find yourself in at the moment is not what you really wanted. You always hoped to be set up properly by now, with a good job, or a nice little business of your own, and in a really good relationship with someone.

You feel cheated and let down by life.

You’re not happy because of your job

Maybe your job isn’t ideal. Okay, let’s be honest about it, maybe it’s like living in Hell! You get up every day, almost afraid to go in and face that soul-destroying job one more time … and there seems no way out of it. The hours are tough, but worse still is the office politics, the endless back-biting and criticising, the sarcasm and the meanness of the people you have to work with. It all seems almost unbearable. Of course, maybe I’ve got this wrong, maybe your job ain’t so bad. But for many people that’s the awful truth, the sick reality that they have to live with day after day.

You’re not happy because of your relationship

And you’re not happy because your relationship isn’t perfect. You do what you can, and God knows you try to be reasonable and considerate, and (dare I say it) even romantic. But you’re not appreciated, oh no … and you sometimes wonder if it’s actually worth going on. Maybe you should just cut your losses and walk away. Hey, maybe I’m wrong again, I don’t know. But for many people, their relationship not working out perfectly is the main reason they’re not happy.

You’re not happy because of your money problems

But you’re definitely not happy because you haven’t got enough money. I know that’s the reason for your unhappiness! Your income is paltry considering what you’re worth and compared to what you’d hoped to be earning by this time. You resent the fact that so many of your friends are doing so well, and frankly, they’re not as intelligent as you are. It’s annoying, to say the very least, to see those people making so much money when it’s plain to see that you’re smarter than they are, by a long way, and there you are, stuck in a dead-end job, on a miserable wage.

Mmm … I dunno … maybe I got that wrong too. Maybe you’re quite happy in your work, and more or less satisfied with your earnings. Maybe that’s not the reason you’re not happy. But there’s got to be a reason!

You’re not happy because you haven’t got the things you really want

I know! You’re not happy because you want to drive a big, expensive car … but you can’t afford one. Or you’re not happy because you still live at home with your parents, or the house you bought has structural problems … or because the area you live in is in the seediest part of town. You’re not happy because you have health problems. You’re not happy because you wanted to make it big, maybe in acting, but you never got that break you really needed. You’re not happy because the world is a miserable place, with droughts and famines, tsunamis, avalanches and earthquakes, terrorist atrocities, twisted politics, and mindless, motiveless murders.

You’re just not happy!

Bottom line, you’re just not happy! Sometimes, when you sit and think about it, it seems amazing that other people can actually be happy, and you even wonder if there’s something wrong with you for seeing the world as it is, which is a miserable hell-hole with barely a single redeeming feature. How come nobody else sees the truth the way you do?

The real reason you’re not happy

None of these things are the reason you’re not happy. Not the real reason, anyway. You’re not happy because you haven’t decided to be happy, that’s the reason. I know, it sounds trite and even ridiculous, but if you haven’t decided to be happy then what do you expect?

Happiness is a feeling. An emotion. It’s not a destination. We generally think of happiness as somehow over there, at a distance, or just out of reach, and only to be gained when certain criteria have been fulfilled. We’ll be happy when we’re rich. Or we’ll be happy when we meet the right person. Or we’ll be happy when we start our own business and see some real money flowing in. Or we’ll be happy when we get that Porsche or that Maserati. Or we’ll be happy when we don’t have to get up and go to work every single day. Or we’ll be happy when we’ve lost that weight and got in the best shape of our lives.

See the problem? We will be happy … we put it off until a certain thing happens. It’s a silly mistake, even a ridiculously stupid one, to be blunt about it, but we all tend to make it. We want to be happy … but we forgo that for now until something special happens. I know … absolutely ridiculous!

How many other emotions do we put on hold? Happiness is probably the only one we plan to experience at some time in the future. It’s crazy!

With most things, we respond to circumstances, and then feel the emotions that those circumstances spark up inside of us. But with happiness, we see it as a destination, something that we desire so badly, but have so much trouble reaching. This type of thinking is steadily pushing away our happiness, because it’s always at arm’s length, or just out of reach. What we’re doing is cheating ourselves out of that happiness.

You can be happy right now!

The truth is you can be happy right now, this minute. You needn’t wait for the money to show up or the fancy car. Your happiness doesn’t have to be dependent on having the perfect relationship. You can just be happy! It’s an emotion, and unless you’re just incapable of controlling your emotions, you can choose to be happy.

It sounds almost incongruent – how can you be happy unless you have that job, that car, that partner, that business, that success, that recognition, that … whatever? The answer, of course, is that you can be happy regardless of your circumstances, if you choose to be.

I say again … happiness is an emotion. You can be happy right now, if you choose to be. And I’m repeating it only because it’s such a strange idea; we’ve all grown up thinking something wonderful has to happen for us to suddenly make us feel happy, but that’s just not true. And you can prove it to yourself. Just stop for a moment, take a deep breath, and imagine how it would feel to have just received a cheque for fifty million pounds. A lottery win, or some outrageously huge windfall of some kind. Try to imagine, as vividly as you can, how that would make you feel.

Amazing! That’s how you’d feel! You’d be speechless with delight, stunned at the whole idea of it, absolutely thrilled to know that you’d never have to do a single day’s work ever again in your life … and to know you could buy literally ANYTHING you wanted. Brilliant! Are you smiling? You should be! You should be feeling so amazingly happy … and if you’re not, you’re not imagining it vividly enough.

Make happiness a habit

And if you develop a habit of being happy, regardless of what’s happening around you, you’ll have found the secret to a happy life. The key to feeling amazing every single day.

Go forward from this moment on, and reach for the happiest thoughts and feelings you can imagine, minute by minute, and your life will change beyond all recognition. Don’t believe me? Give it a 30-day trial. Or even a week. Make it a rule that you will keep reaching for those happy thoughts and feelings, all the time, and see what happens. Every time you find yourself feeling down for some reason, remind yourself you can decide to be happy, regardless.

Use a trick to keep it uppermost in your mind, if that helps. Put a little bit of sticky tape on the big, fleshy pad at the base of your thumb. It will be invisible to anyone else, but difficult to ignore, for you. Every time you use your hands, you’ll feel the tape crinkle, and it’ll remind you why it’s there. And every time you notice it (if you need a reason to be happy), remember to try to think of how lucky you are to still be alive and to have endless opportunities laid out before you … or how lucky you are to have a roof over your head, and food in the fridge … or how lucky you are to be able to walk, and stretch, and smile … or how lucky you are to have clean running water … or how lucky you are to have access to the internet.

Keep coming up with different reasons why you’re lucky (and you are, in hundreds of ways). If you want to keep score, so to speak, start making a list! Every once in a while, open your document and add to it, with the latest few things you’ve realised you’re lucky to have. Glancing at that list should be enough to make you happy in itself!

Reach out for those thoughts that make you feel happy. Grab that happiness right now, instead of planning to be happy at some vague point in the future. Give up the belief that you have to have something outside of you to meet certain requirements before you can feel the emotion of happiness.

Turn the old idea on its head!

Instead of waiting for a good thing to happen before you can be happy, just feel happy right now! You’ll be turning the old way of doing things upside down … become happy before something good happens!

Turning happiness on doesn’t mean you’re giving up on your goals. You can still want to be rich, or successful, or famous, or whatever. In fact, and this is the BIG bonus … you’ll be far more likely to become rich, or famous, or whatever it is you desire, because you’re happy.

Become aligned with your goals

The way to reach your goals is to pretend you’ve already attained them. We’ve all been told this, time and again. Imagine how you’d feel if you were already successful, or if you were already in that dream job, of if you were driving that amazing car. And the reason we’re told to do this is because it puts us in alignment with achievement.

If you vividly imagine having achieved your goal, you’re raising your vibrational frequency to the same level as the goal itself. And so, the two of them being in alignment, they tend to attract each other. The more you feel as though you’re already successful, the quicker you’ll become successful.

Well, if the root of your goal is to be happy (and it is, it always is), the sooner you are happy, and the happier you are, the quicker you’ll achieve your goals. Because you’re putting yourself in close alignment with them!

Don’t put it off any longer … be happy NOW!

You don’t have to wait till you get that better job before you feel happy. And you don’t have to wait till you’re in the perfect relationship before you feel happy. You don’t have to look forward to driving that amazing car before you feel happy. You can be happy right now! You don’t have to put it on hold one second longer.

Start developing a happiness habit today, raising your vibrational frequency and boosting your happiness, for no reason whatsoever, apart from the fact that happiness is your primary goal (and what better reason is there?).

And you want to feel even happier? Then keep in mind that the happier you feel, the quicker your goals will manifest into your life. You’ll still have to take action, of course, I’m not saying this is some kind of weird magic. But it will feel a lot less stressful since you’ll be much more closely aligned with your goals.

So start today! Just be happy! Without reason, and without restriction.
Just be happy now, and you’ve cracked the code of life!